Hello Windermere Friends,
If you are from my generation you have heard the name Dr. Benjamin Spock. It was Spock that told an entire generation of parents to take it easy, don’t discipline your children and allow them to express themselves. Discipline, he told us, would warp a child’s fragile ego. He was the expert on child development. However, before his death Dr. Spock made an amazing discovery: he was wrong. Here is what he said:
“We have reared a generation of brats. Parents aren’t firm enough with their children for fear of losing their love or incurring their resentment. This is a cruel deprivation that we professionals have imposed on mothers and fathers. We didn’t realize until it was too late how our know-it-all attitude was undermining the self-assurance of parents.”
Part of being a leader is being able to change your mind. I know many leaders who fear being called a flip-flopper. They think it means the person is weak. I have one word for that – baloney. Changing your mind is NOT a sign of a weak leader; it is a sign of a strong leader.
I have found Jeff Iorg’s book, Seasons of a Leader’s Life, to be very insightful. Jeff makes a case for three times when a leader should change his mind. Here is how I apply this to my life.
First, change your mind when the Bible says so. I can give you many times when God word has changed my mind. God’s word contains both precepts and principles. What’s the difference? Use this as an illustration: when you see a sign that says “Speed Limit 55 MPH” that is a precept. When you see a sign that says “Drive carefully,” that is a principle. I am quick to add discernment to God’s precepts and principles. Philippians 1:9 says “And this I pray, that your love may abound still more and more in real knowledge and all discernment.” You need balance between knowledge and discernment in order to wisely change your mind.
Second, change your mind when you learn new facts. I can recall one of my seminary professors say the best way for you to thrive as a minister is to be a lifelong learner. I love to learn something new that really changes my mind. For example, I learned something about my personality that really added to my self-image. What I thought was a weakness became a strength! One of the best ways I learn new facts is by reading. It will change your mind about many things.
Finally, change your mind when you are wrong. Dr. Spock sure did change his mind. A strong leader will say it quickly, “Hey, I was wrong about this.” It is authentic. It is real and it really adds to your credibility.
I have a strong feeling that our Lord is going to be changing the minds of many Baptists regarding Windermere. To God be the glory.
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